Getting to know

Some people get close to one another, intending to get to know this person, but do not absolutely want it… To know someone is not easy and requires patience.
You must have interest.
Affection.
Care.
And attention.
Coexistence does not always mean that you know the other. And it does not matter if you spied on the other or stalked the other during the coexistence… It seems to me that when you want to know about the other, by force, a kind of scorn begins to prevail and then, nothing goes right … The situation gets nasty and unsustainable.
Indeed, getting to know about the other means to be interested and available… And also to be curious to know and learn, because to know someone is a constant learning and a challenge!!
It tests your nerves, your observation, your feelings, your humour, your self-knowledge and why not say your limits.
Needs good communication to discover the other slowly, gain his/ her confidence and that this person can count on you for everything. To have a conversation is a great way to do it, sometimes more jokes than serious and the reverse… However, the most important is to be true and sincere in every situation.
I enjoy learning without the other realising that they are teaching me. What excites me is to be conscious of how our lives are enriched by the experience of the other.
I think that getting to know the other requires that you probably write a print of his/her biography in your mind and in your heart, because it is in your life, in your feelings (deep or not). It is a fact that when you think about somebody, when you deal with people you definitely feel something – good or bad. If you feel nothing, you must review if it is worth or not to keep in touch.
I would like to let you think about this quote which I like so much but unfortunately I don’t know the author: “The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you give your time, you are giving a portion of your life that you will never get back.”
Are you giving to yourself the opportunity of knowing marvellous people?